sob story: meaning, definition, pronunciation and examples
B2Informal, slightly pejorative
Quick answer
What does “sob story” mean?
A story or account of personal difficulties, hardships, or sorrows, told with the intention of eliciting sympathy, pity, or special treatment from the listener.
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Definition
Meaning and Definition
A story or account of personal difficulties, hardships, or sorrows, told with the intention of eliciting sympathy, pity, or special treatment from the listener.
Often used disparagingly or with skepticism to imply the story is exaggerated, overly sentimental, or manipulatively self-pitying, designed to gain an emotional or practical advantage.
Dialectal Variation
British vs American Usage
Differences
No significant lexical or grammatical differences in usage. Both varieties use the term with identical meaning and similar frequency.
Connotations
Identical connotations in both dialects.
Frequency
Slightly more common in American English, but well-established and understood in both.
Grammar
How to Use “sob story” in a Sentence
to tell/give (sb) a sob story (about sth)to hear/listen to a sob storyto fall for/believe a sob storyto see through a sob storyVocabulary
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Examples
Examples of “sob story” in a Sentence
verb
British English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
American English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
adverb
British English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
American English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
adjective
British English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
American English
- Not applicable. The term is only a noun phrase.
Usage
Meaning in Context
Business
Used when dismissing an employee's or contractor's personal excuses for poor performance or missed deadlines. (e.g., 'We can't accept excuses based on personal sob stories.')
Academic
Rare. Might be used in literary criticism to describe overly sentimental narratives.
Everyday
Common in informal conversation to express skepticism about someone's reported troubles, especially when they are used as an excuse or to ask for a favour.
Technical
Not used.
Vocabulary
Synonyms of “sob story”
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Neutral
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Vocabulary
Antonyms of “sob story”
Watch out
Common Mistakes When Using “sob story”
- Using it to neutrally describe a genuinely sad story without the implied skepticism. (Incorrect: 'She told me a moving sob story about her childhood.' Correct: 'She told me a moving story...')
- Using it as a verb (e.g., 'He sob-storied me'). The term is a noun phrase only.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
Almost never. Its core meaning is pejorative, implying exaggeration or manipulation. To describe a genuinely moving, non-manipulative sad story, use terms like 'heartbreaking story', 'tragic tale', or simply 'sad story'.
Yes, it is considered dismissive, rude, and skeptical. It directly questions the truthfulness and motives of the speaker. Use with caution, typically only in informal settings where such bluntness is accepted.
They are very close synonyms. 'Sob story' may imply more overt emotional manipulation (emphasizing crying/sobbing), while 'hard-luck story' can sometimes be slightly more neutral, focusing on the misfortune itself. In practice, they are often interchangeable.
Yes, the term can be applied to any narrative designed to elicit sympathy for a purpose, such as charity advertisements, political speeches, or corporate PR that heavily relies on sentimental, personal hardship narratives. (e.g., 'The ad was just a sob story to get donations.')
A story or account of personal difficulties, hardships, or sorrows, told with the intention of eliciting sympathy, pity, or special treatment from the listener.
Sob story is usually informal, slightly pejorative in register.
Sob story: in British English it is pronounced /ˈsɒb ˌstɔːri/, and in American English it is pronounced /ˈsɑːb ˌstɔːri/. Tap the audio buttons above to hear it.
Phrases
Idioms & Phrases
- “pull a sob story”
- “same old sob story”
- “give me the sob story”
Learning
Memory Aids
Mnemonic
Imagine someone SOBBING while telling a STORY. The combination literally creates the term. Remember, it's often a story you 'sob' about, but the listener might think it's fake.
Conceptual Metaphor
EMOTIONAL APPEAL IS A NARRATIVE / SYMPATHY IS A COMMODITY OBTAINED BY A STORY
Practice
Quiz
Which sentence uses 'sob story' CORRECTLY?